I faced tons of challenges in 2018. It was the hardest year ever! I was lost and crying a lot and it’s full of tensions! However, in December (my month of birth), I felt “spiritual reborn” and that status led me the right direction and more happiness. So, I would like to write the summary of life lessons (crystallisation) for myself and it may have benefits for the readers who have a chance to read them.
Do not reject your “Call”. We all have “The Call” or the voice of nature inside us which is ready to lead us to the right direction if we “listen”. Whenever you listen and follow it, you will always find the right exit / solution. Although it may seem impossible or nonsense, miracle can always happen. It’s like to unlock the stuck point when we surrender to “The Call”. But we need “brave” to follow it then we will meet what we really want from the bottom of our heart.
Do not define yourself as “good person” but to look at yourself as “something that is learning to improve a life”. If we define ourselves as “good man”, we will have some kind of “ego” and look at ourselves above others and often torture ourselves.
We always think that the good person must torture oneself. Actually, it’s not like that. If we truly understand what Buddha taught about “middle way”, we will realise that “I = You”. If we torture ourselves, we will never ever be able to love others with heart of pure love. Our lives will be stuck in misery forever. We will never find the true happiness as we cannot love ourselves and never want ourselves to be happy. This kind of feeling will lead to accumulated jealousy and depress emotion. They can cause chronic illness that cannot find the causes and will have less and less life energy.
Do not expect anything from doing good things. Good is good in itself. Happy at the moment you do. Do it because it’s happy to do so. Do not expect that I do good and I reserve the good! Because finally, you will get the good, even you don’t expect. The most important thing is be happy at the moment you do, period! Not expect anything!
If you doing “the bad”, you will feel miserable at that moment! Like when you’re angry and hurt others, your heart and body are shaking at that time. You burn yourself first! It means that everything that we do, it will be saved in our mind right away. When we do it often, our brain & nervous system will strengthen the “The Bad” nerves. Whenever you face any situation, you will use these bad nerves to response and it will lead to accumulation of misery!
We can never change anything if we do not change our behaviour and mind. Finally, the subconscious mind (feeling, emotion, trait) will overcome the reason. Except for people with consciousness which can detect any movement going around. Detect, aware and let go or give it a good response. When response in a good way regularly, it will change all physical things such as health, personality, skin quality, financial status, work and relationship. Physical world = invisible world which is already in our heart.
ดังนั้น สติสำคัญที่สุดในการ “เปลี่ยนแปลงตัวเอง”
So, consciousness is the most important thing to “change oneself”.
We will be able to get out of any problem when we apply “self-reliance” concept. Do not hope or ask for help from others as everybody has his/her own problem to solve. True friends who will have everything to support us are rarely found and only the persons who used to help each other before will have a chance to help each other now. Therefore, do not hope and ask for help. We must help ourselves first. Take a responsibility back to your life. We made it (problem), we solve it. We will gain profit in life by gaining new solving skills. We will feel proud of ourselves, more capable and be more useful to this world. It also can bring new opportunity to life.
Do not hire many employees while your business’s financial status is not ready to do so. We must evaluate our status. What we have to do by ourselves, do it first. If we must pay for someone, the person must be specialist in the field who know exactly how to solve our problem and can create the outcome we expect right away.
Being an entrepreneur, you must know every single details of your business. Do not hire workers if you do not know all details of your business. You must learn how to do it successfully then hire someone to work in the area you do not need to do with the salary or wages we can pay them in time.
You must be patient for every hardness to your body and mind. You must take good care of yourself, being healthy, eating good food so you will have full energy in every single day to completely solve all problems. The harder of the challenge, the more you have to take good care of yourself because we have to mainly rely on our own power! If you’re unhealthy, you will be the burden of people around you. So, being healthy is very important. Do not let it down!
Going to exercise, only the simple way like jogging around your house about 20-30 minutes can help release negative energy quite a lot. Running in the natural area will bring you good ideas to solve problems and release negative energy like “energy recycle”. You will gain the power of mind and creativity back after exercise
If you have financial problems, use your birthday as “RESET” day. Let we in the current time go. Close your eyes and imagine or look at the photos when we were young. Recall the feeling of love and happiness we had got. Recall of the days our mind was free from all adult problems. What kind of mind we use to have, recall it. Ignore the adultness for 1 day (no need to wait for birthday, it can be any day that you feel hard, just do it right away). Give all the child want (ourselves that we recall). What make you happy when you were young, just do it. Do not tell people around you that I need 1 day that will not talk about “current life”. Tell them that you will live a life of your childhood for 1 day. Recall it, live it fully. Let go of all worries happening in the present time.
Tidy up all things around you. Cut all the things that annoys you. Live with only the things that are meaningful to you including table, bed, bathroom, clothes, people, etc. It seems like using Fengshui without theory. Follow your heart and feeling inside. Which stuffs make you happy, keep it. Which make you feel uncomfortable or sad or do not feel anything, say thank you to it, pack and ditch it.
We can eat only a handful amount of food per meal for life. If we eat too much, foods will not be completely digested and it will cause health problem from gas or accumulated feces. If we eat too less, we will not have power. Human can eat only this amount per meal, both luxury and expensive meal or cheap ones. So, if we can manage to eat in the middle way and eat good food, that is enough. Further than this, it’s like additional happiness from tasting new tastes. But it’s unnecessary. The most important thing is to eat in proper amount and good for health.
Do not attach yourself with others’ thoughts, words and actions. Even we like it or not, they will never affect us until we receive it. What really matter to our life is only what “we do” in every single day. If we know what we’re doing, how it is meaningful to us and what it will lead to, that is the most important.
If we start to feel lost and worried too much, RESET your mind first. When you look at your house, working desk or our bag and feel it’s very messy, it reflects how messy the mind is. You mind is lost. It can’t catch the direction and can’t make a proper decision. What we need to do is to STOP thinking first. Bring ourselves to nature environment where we can feel save and peaceful. Breath in and out deeply. When breath out, blow out of your mouth too, until the mind is calm. Then ask yourself, what you want in your life? Does the thing I am doing bring me to the that goal? Do this every time when life seems messy and lost or have some illness without any predictable causes. It reflects your weak heart. If you can’t do this by yourself and want to talk with someone but do not know who to talk to, go to meet a psychiatrist.
The person who wants to commit suicide is the person who carries too much “ego” and can’t bear with the hardness of the ego. So, if you do not want to reach that point, inspect your mind that it’s still in a good condition or not. Inspect if your life is still in the direction you want or not. Set yourself free from ego often to prevent the accumulation of “ego” to the hardest point. In a blink of an eyes, one might do stupid thing to himself and regret it forever. But in fact, life can be restart in every single breath. But it’s us that have never practice to do so.
Love is the most important for life to go on. Love will keep us alive. Most people in this age lacks of love and this creates many problems. Kids who lack love from parents because they are busy with solving financial things (in the wrong direction) is the main problem at this time. Parents have kids but do not raise kids. They do not give the most important thing of human life, love, into kids’ heart which can be the protection from any threats in the world. The kids will grow up to be an adult who lacks of heart. They do not love themselves, destroy their lives and hurt others. When they become parents, they will not know how to love their kids and then their kids will lacks of love. It the broken-heart circle continuously. In the society that is full of people who lacks of love will have so many problems. In face, every problem of human can be solved by LOVE & free from ego. If have love, no need to use any tricks and techniques, human heart can solve and heal all things.
What we do it wrong, it passes. We can be sad, depressed, crying but we must finish it fast. Then we have got to learn from it and never do it again. In other point of view, it will help us to get closer to the things we want. We will know what works and not if we review it. Then, we do only the ways that work. If we do it wrong, just solve it, forgive it and be free of all negative feelings happen. Let it go completely.
When coming back to spend OFFLINE life, life is more cheerful and live more like a normal human. I can feel full love with my loved ones at home and closed friends. We understand each other more. Life is more meaningful.
โลกออนไลน์ มีโอกาสอยู่ในนั้นมากมาย ทั้งโอกาสในชีวิตใหม่ๆ โอกาสทำเงินใหม่ ๆ แต่มันก็คือ โลกเสมือนเป็นโลกที่ทุกอย่างรวดเร็วมากและผู้คนก็มา ๆ ไป ๆ และสิ่งที่อัพเดทกันบน Social Media ก็มีทั้งที่ดีและน่าติดตามและที่ไม่โอเค ดังนั้น ต้องเลือกเพื่อนใน Social ให้ดี อย่า follow หรือเป็นเพื่อนกับคนที่ปล่อยพลังลบทุกโพสต์ และ จงให้ความสำคัญกับคนบนโลกออฟไลน์ก่อนเสมอ บนออนไลน์ เราสามารถเลือกเปิดปิดสวิชต์ได้เสมอว่าเราอยากจะเชื่อมต่อเมื่อไหร่ โดยไม่จำเป็นต้องเชื่อมต่อตลอดเวลา (ถ้าไม่ได้ต้องทำงานบนสายนี้)
Online world provide lots of opportunities for life including more way to find more money. However, it’s a virtue world that everything moves so fast. People come and go fast. The contents on social media have both side. So it’s very important to choose friends in social network. Do not follow or be friend with the people who always post negative things. Alway give priority to the person on OFFLINE world. On online, we can always choose to switch on or off when we want to connect. We do not need to connect all the time ( except the people who need to work in this field)
To solve financial problem is like playing sports or getting good grades. The score is the outcome of the game. The grade is the outcome of the study. Wealth and good amount in the bank account are the outcome of financial and life management that depends on the quality and power of mind. It’s not about destiny, it’s about our mind only that create our destiny. So, if we want good financial status and life, we need to aware of natural rules and take actions of the factors to the results we want. We want to have good financial status, we need to know about money management taxes and mind that welcomes money, giving good service to this world, always develop work and life, meeting new people who can support each other, then the outcome will turn out good. Do not only look at the amount in the account and ask for more money & happiness. It needs to take actions. Do and do only in the things that will lead to that results. See what is the cause of that result, constantly do it, the outcome will appear.
In conclusion, the life lessons of year 2018 are letting go off ego + walking on the way of love, mercy, forgiveness, gratitude and attaching to the principle of “right cause, right result, will let us meet the path to what we really want. Finally, humans just need a happy life that is full of laugh of love. Actually, they are already there in every human, but it’s covered by only the wrong view.